Sexless in the City

Sometimes reading romance novels doesn’t quite prepare you for a love life...

For this 30-year-old urbanite, love is always a misadventure: The Harvard Lickwit, Hippie the Groper, the 5% Man, and the Ad Weasel. These and many other men wander in and out of her life — but never her bed.

Thursday, November 18, 2004

Anna’s man, 6 years ago

While I’m getting myself together this morning (hey, at least I rose before 11 today!!), here’s something to keep ya entertained: Dawn Eden’s sketch of the perfect man (for her).

I once used to make such lists (as any romantic is wont to do), but found a strange concurrence between certain qualities and the guy I had in mind at the moment. I haven’t made a list in quite some time now.

Just for laughs, here’s one I wrote on May 11, 1998. And because the build-up is so horrifically priceless, I’m including that as well.
May 11, 1998
read: Eph. 2:1-10, Matt. 5:17-20, Rom. 7, Ps. 35, 73
weighed: 162
ate: sundries including grapenuts, carrots, frappuccino, beans and Dr. Pepper

I’m liked by someone (or two), Guy Friend #2 says. What to think of that. (wry smile). I wonder ... The Winner? A long-shot, I suppose. I’m not hugely interested, but I haven’t really encountered anything of depth yet, any hook. SO ... what if I’m right? What if he asked me out? I still haven’t settled on an absolute dating policy. It’s really such a gray area! I’d feel odd for saying yes, but why not? Is that just an impatient, hormonal, response? On the other hand, I’m going to have to date at some point — even my husband!

So what am I looking for in a spouse anyway?
an unswerving, fiery passion for God
a commitment to purity
a heart for missions — maybe even overseas
a love for his parents and family
good communication skills
someone capable of being the spiritual leader
commitment to his church
ability to admit wrong and apologize
sense of humor
passion for music
comfortableness w/other races and cultures
someone w/whom I could converse philosophically
musical background/ability
intelligence and wit

a dancer
a good back-rubber
Wow. Not even I am that sure what to say after that. Perhaps appropriately enough, today’s first song in the hi-fi was “Freak Like Me.”

And now, since my readers have become soooooooo quiet of late (sniff, gulp, sniff), let’s turn it around to you. What are some of the more memorable things you have wanted or want? You don’t have to get all naked and exposed or anything (especially since this site is allegedly PG-13 rated) ... but share some of the colorful ones, please. You know: stuff like, “has straight teeth,” “free of previous convictions,” etc.