Sexless in the City

Sometimes reading romance novels doesn’t quite prepare you for a love life...

For this 30-year-old urbanite, love is always a misadventure: The Harvard Lickwit, Hippie the Groper, the 5% Man, and the Ad Weasel. These and many other men wander in and out of her life — but never her bed.

Tuesday, September 28, 2004

Addicted to love?

Happy Anna’s back from critter-vanquishing, but off to another visit at the client’s office. Expect the follow up to the Bleak Monday entry below sometime this afternoon or evening.

Contest reminder
If you already read that entry, bone up on the August archives and enter the Sexless contest! Four entries so far, one of which is finally a contender. Don’t forget now, people, we’ve got several prizes on the line: a gmail invite or homemade cinnamon roll for first place (both parts right), and RNC shlock or a jpeg of Anna for second place (one part right). Feel free to revise, explain or improve on previous efforts if you’ve already entered.

And for your morning web-surf, I’ve been meaning to mention an interesting post on one blogger’s rejection of S.exaholics Anonymous because he couldn’t accept their philosophy (which I quote from his entry):

The Twelve Steps of S.exaholics Anonymous
  1. We admitted that we were powerless over l.ust -- that our lives had become unmanageable.
  2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand Him.
  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
  5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
  6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
  7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
  8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
  9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
  10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to S.exaholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
Thoughts on this? I’m curious what ya’ll think. His primary objection had to do with the issue of control, I believe.

Further pleas for reader input
Finally, while you’ve got your noggins in action, don’t forget to recommend:
  • your tried-’n-true disappointment/break-up/heartache albums or songs.
  • books I should use (and read) for the Sexless BOTtoM I’ve got the aforementioned Solitary Sex and Foucault’s History of Sexuality, Vol. 1, but both of those seem a bit heavy. Alain de Botton? Nick Horby? Lady Chatterley’s Lover?
As always, thanks for reading, and thanks for responding! :)

September BOTtoM
Taking Sex Differences Seriously
Taking Sex Differences Seriously
Solitary Sex: A Cultural History of Masturbation
Solitary Sex
History of Sexuality: An Introduction, Vol. 1
History of Sexuality: An Introduction, Vol. 1